Some of you may know, and some of you may not know, that adoption has already played a significant role in our lives. Russ was adopted by his step father when his parents were married 20-something years ago. Russ and his older sister are children from his mother’s previous marriage. This picture is a picture of Vincente with Russ’ biological paternal grandmother. She’s a sweet lady, and lives close to us, and we are very happy to have her in our lives. Our kids love her and she has helped us out a lot.
Russ hasn’t had any contact with his biological father other than a few letters they exchanged while Russ was on his mission.
Most of you also know that we are in the process of getting our foster care license from the state of Utah, with the intention to adopt teens out of foster care. We would love to finalize our first adoption this year. We’ll see how things go.
Adoption is a gospel principle, and I am excited to be able to participate in this wonderful experience. We are all adopted into Heavenly Father’s family by obedience to His laws, and those who are not of the house of Israel can be adopted into the lineage of Abraham. Brigham Young said this about it, “They will be broken off from the wild olive tree, and be grafted into the good and tame olive tree, and will partake of its sap and fatness.” This is part of what I feel adoption is about – especially adoption out of foster care – it is taking those tender branches who have been broken off and grafting them into your own tree to give them life. These teens, left broken from their family trees, must find a tree to be grafted in to, or they will most likely wither and dry out.
I just read an article by a mom who just adopted two teens out of foster care, and she said it this way:
I also didn't just adopt Aubrianna that day, I adopted more than that, I adopted her history, her culture, her ancestors. We are all linked. If you can picture the grafting of a healthy branch into a healthier tree, well, that's one way to look at it. But what I did, was to cut her family tree vertically down to include her roots and we are grafting that into the trunk of my tree. Her roots will mingle with mine and we will grow as a family - two families, to begin with....
I think that it’s important, also, to remember where these kids came from and include their roots, as well. This was beautifully put.
For those of you who may “worry” about us adopting teens out of foster care – I feel like it’s the most sacred work I could do. I am not naive in any way when it comes to fostering teens (trust me, the eight 4 hour long classes we have attended this month have done a lot to show me exactly how real and messy it can and most likely will be) – but just because something is hard, scary, or messy doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing – and someone has to do it.
Out of nearly 1300 licensed foster families in the state of Utah, only about 120 will accept teens. That’s less than 10%.
I feel like the Lord will give us strength to bring these children into our homes and into our lives and help us raise them. Of course they will still have their own accountability – but their chances of success in life are much higher if they have a safe place to screw up. If they can screw up in our home, instead of alone on the streets, we can lift them up off their knees, dust them off, give them a hug, and tell them to try again. Everyone needs a family, and who are we to be selfish with ours, and keep it to ourselves. We already want to share our family with all of our friends – everyone is family to us. These children are just unique in that they don’t have another family to belong to. We are that family.

